One Common Thread

What or who is it that we Admire?

Over my lifetime, I have admired many different people and many different situations.  I think we all have.  For me, the common thread in all upon introspection is those or that which are authentic.  Plain and simple.  It it the single most quality that I look for in others and in things around me.  Especially now.

Sometimes, people confuse admiration with envy, but they are not one in the same.  Envy, according to WordReference.com, is a feeling of discontent caused by a desire for another’s advantages or achievements; whereas, admiration is a feeling of pleasure, approval and often respect or wonder.  Have I experienced both feelings?  Of course I have, as have you I’m guessing.  I don’t think we’d be human without having done so.  Maybe envy even pushes us toward admiration in a backward sort of way.  I mean, maybe envying a person or situation helps swing us into action of our own.  Whether or not we like to admit it, we are constantly gauging ourselves against others–it’s how we find our place in this world.  How we go about doing that or how we interpret it certainly changes over time, but we all do it, be it consciously or unconsciously.

Throughout our lives, we are all faced with a variety of circumstances, some good and some not so good.  I admire those who find their way through them, while being true to themselves as best they can at any given time.  I am naturally drawn to things or people who most resemble what they stand for.  Wishy-‘washiness’, dishonesty with one’s self or others, superficiality, blaming others, playing victim, constant negative energies ALL send me packing.  Now, that’s not to say that I expect perfection, but I do expect and respect the truth.  We all make mistakes, we all get caught up in cycles, we all get hurt and on occasion, we are the cause of hurt, though usually not intentionally.  I can deal with all of that, even within myself.  It’s just that I have less and less tolerance and/or space in my life for those things that do not serve a real purpose.  Life is just too short!   We all have limits, and with as little time as we are all given on this Earth, I want my energy, my purpose, my time to be used for the good.  As a result, I have had to make some very difficult decisions regarding relationships, especially, but why stay with someone or something which weighs you down or operates contrary to how you wish to conduct yourself?  It’s just not worth it.  It serves no one, particularly you.  I am learning that I am worthy just by being.  I don’t need to explain or justify my actions or thoughts, though I sometimes still do out of habit, I just need to be true to myself and align myself with those who do the same.  At the end of the day, I need to be happy with me.  I need to answer to me.

Does my thinking resonate with you at all?  Is there someone or something specific that speaks to you in your life?  Are you happy with the path which you are on?  Please feel free to share your thoughts.  Meanwhile, thank you for visiting my blog today:-).

 

 

 

 

 

 

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