The Stubborn Side of Me

I hear or see the word Forbidden and I cringe.  To me, it has a negative connotation, and I prefer to think of things on a more positive note–not unlike many of you, I’m sure.  And, also similar to the rest of mankind, the minute that I am told that something is plain out of my reach, it makes me all the more interested in it.  A lot like a small child, really, who is warned time and time again not to do, say or touch something; thereby inviting them to not only try it once, but often again and again despite the warning or raised voice.  It is clearly in our nature to want to try that which is otherwise deemed unattainable and of course, there are many biblical references about that very notion.  However, that is not where I am going with this.

On a societal level, we clearly have rules/laws which forbid us to do certain things, and depending on where we live, these are usually enforced to keep us safe and/or to keep things ‘fair’ (whatever that may be), though some would certainly argue as to whether or not the latter is true.  And, of course, we all know that in some places around the world, things are imposed on others which have nothing to do with safety or equality, rather the ‘forbidden’ is more about gaining control and/or exerting power over others.  In some of my travels, I have actually visited countries whose political systems are a lot like the one I just mentioned, and then comes my traveller’s quandary of why am I here supporting this kind of thinking.  Yet, at the same time, ‘my being there’ is providing a means of income for people who might otherwise not have a chance to make money and support their families.  Hmmm…pause for thought.  Sometimes, I am not sure that I’ve made the right decision, though my intention would never be to hurt anyone or anything (I mean, we’re talking about a girl who is a self-proclaimed crier at Kleenex ads).  It is nice to dream of changing how things all work in this big ol’ world some day, but it is a very complicated one in which we live.  Unfortunately, I don’t think this one simple post will be its saviour.  But, it is a thought worth putting out there just the same, right?!  You know, one voice can make a difference, one step in the right direction.

From a personal standpoint, I don’t really believe in that which is forbidden.  Maybe it’s just the stubborn side of me speaking or maybe it is actually that I am wiser.  I’d like to think it’s the second of the two, though I will admit that I can be stubborn (‘See Mom, I admitted it…‘).  I mean, obviously there are specific things that I will NOT do based on my own morality and/or fears, but when it comes to day-to-day living, I prefer not to think of any one thing as being prohibited.  When I was, oh say, 20+ years younger or so, I self-imposed a lot of restrictions (i.e. diet, thoughts, love, etc.) simply because I lived my life then largely based on what others thought or would think of me, or what would please them.  As a result, I had many silly little rules and walls that I lived behind.  But, at the time, I was just a wee youngster and I didn’t know any better.  I was doing the best that I could with what I knew, just the same as anyone else, which is all that you can ever really ask or hope for in someone, right?  I am learning to forgive myself for those ridiculous notions and clearly, I have moved on as I look at my life now, which is so very different.  As a forty-something year old, if I want dessert, I am having it and not just some, the whole darn thing!  If my opinion differs from yours, you’ll hear it in a polite way.  If I am being mistreated, I will speak out.  If I think something could be done better or be changed for the positive, I will advocate for it.  If I love something or someone, I try to make sure that I let it be known (this one is a work in progress, as it requires me being somewhat vulnerable–but, I am learning).  The other day, I came across this picture and quote from a fellow WordPress user’s post, and I saved it because I thought that it was quite poignant given the stage of life which I am at now, and some of the realizations that I have just discussed.  Maybe some of you can also relate, which is why I’d like to share it with you.

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I will clarify that I don’t view the final sentence at aged 60 as being a negative thing, as some might interpret it.  I think it simply means that you should just go ahead and do what you want because everyone else is thinking more about themselves than you.  It’s just who we are by nature, self-absorbed by our own thoughts, which doesn’t mean that we are selfish either.  Just human.  With the ability to be compassionate.

I think I will end this post here.  As I close off, I will unwrap and enjoy a couple of Hershey Kiss treats just because I want to, even though it is only 8AM here on the Big Island of Hawaii.  Dessert for breakfast?  Why not?!  I say it’s not forbidden:-).

 

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7 responses to “The Stubborn Side of Me”

  1. Dom says :

    wonderful quotes!

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  2. jpeters6248 says :

    I’m just getting into my 40’s and I am starting to realize that I don’t really care what people think. I find myself speaking out more and not holding my tongue as often as I used to. It’s scary for me, but at the same time, it’s a lot less stress and it’s nice. Why does it take some people so long to figure it out? This of course led my rambling brain to wonder what life was like for people before the life expectancy is what it is today. Did we go through the steps faster back then or did people never reach the age of just being themselves? How horrible would that be? Now I am really rambling. Thanks for the great post.

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    • Sue says :

      You pose an interesting idea with respect to the whole life expectancy thing. Hmmm…never really thought of that before. I wonder now, as well. I’m thinking with how repressed women were not that long ago, it might be the latter for them anyway.

      And, good for you for speaking your mind. It takes practice for sure, when you are taught to be polite and agree or say yes, or at least that was my experience. Kinda freeing for a change, isn’t it? I’ve found that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Hold onto the next 40, right?!

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  3. happysoul5 says :

    Beautifully written Sue.
    I am 22 and I can totally relate to being easily trapped by my own thoughts, of what the world thinks about me. But yes, never too late from keeping these thoughts at bay and living a carefree life.

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    • Sue says :

      Ahh…aged 22, eh? Enjoy it, which you clearly are as a ‘happy soul’. It goes by so quickly and honestly this life is too short to be judging ourselves so harshly against others. The saying that we are own worst critics couldn’t be more true! Others are too busy worrying about their own things to be worried as much about us. Thank you for taking time to read my post:-) Have a happy, soulful kinda day!!

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  4. 2020visionsblog says :

    I read this and reread this as I think about what I go through on some days. Thanks for a future blog once I finish up the Angels among us post.

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    • Sue says :

      Looking forward to the rest of your Angels post and would love to read the one that you do as a future blog after reading my post:-). Thanks for stopping by….

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